A family that is full of happiness and prosperity is akin to heaven on earth. Every person wishes to have such a family. The understanding of the household should be so good that the elders get due respect and reverence, and the younger ones get affection and lots of love and blessings. Everyone needs to be mutually cooperative in this type of family formation; otherwise, good families can be destroyed due to family feuds and ideological differences.
Therefore, for family happiness, one should understand and respect the tender feelings of others. They should also respect each other. The delicate thread of the relationship can be broken by hurting and neglecting others for selfish reasons.
There should be mutual harmony and understanding among the family members. It is the responsibility of the earning members of the family to spend their income on the welfare and needs of the whole family and not use it for undue expenses. Dependence on the hired help and servants for small tasks can lead to many issues; so, as far as possible, everyone should cooperate and do all the household chores together.
The relationship of husband and wife is the backbone of the family, and their tender relationship is of utmost importance. Therefore, where the wife’s behavior is affectionate, the husband should also fulfill her needs by respecting her feelings and wishes properly. Moreover, husband and wife should make each other aware of every aspect of their lives because secrecy isn’t good in this sacred relationship. Similarly, the relationship between parents, brother-sister, and brother-inlaw should also be dealt with dignity. In this way, the joy of festivals and other family events increases, and there is an atmosphere of happiness in the family.
A very famous Doha of Rahim says,
That is, the thread of love should never be broken because once it is broken, it does not connect again, and even if it is joined, there is a knot in it.
If we talk about the relationship of newlyweds, there is a high possibility of misunderstandings or knotting because, in the beginning, it is a bit raw. The ambush of the relationship may not be visible outside, but it remains in mind. With mutual understanding, one can make this delicate relationship stronger. To lay the foundation of a strong relationship, one must introspect and abandon all bad habits from the very beginning of the marriage.
Sometimes our habits are responsible for creating knots in good relationships. If we are conscious of our selfish habits, we can save our relationships from falling apart by keeping them in check. For example, some wives have a routine where they prepare food with great love but dwell on the day’s grievances while serving it. This upsets the husband’s mind. Above all, the wife wants the husband to appreciate the food prepared by her. Ayurveda says that food benefits the body when eaten in a peaceful state. On the other hand, food eaten in an environment of stress is unhealthy and gives rise to problems like gas, acidity, and indigestion.
One should set aside separate time to share one’s thoughts with the spouse. After supper, husband and wife may go for a walk and talk to each other about the whole day’s events. A husband and wife are not considered as two but as one unit. Anyone who comes between these two will be called a third party, whether it is their child, parents, or siblings.
It is inappropriate to share secrets between a couple with any third person. Doing so jeopardizes the credibility of the sacred relationship. The talk between husband and wife should be private and not meant for anyone else. But some girls are so emotionally attached to their mother, sister-in-law, or a friend, that they share everything, including private matters. This may disrupt the mutual trust between husband and wife.
Mutual trust is the essential quality of married life. Like the thread of love, the cord of trust also cannot be reconnected when broken. A relationship called marriage is meaningful only when it becomes us instead of you and me. Then it is not yours or mine; whatever happens is ours. A marriage where this does not occur is not a marriage but a settlement. Understanding this, we have to decide whether we want to lay the foundation of our marriage on love, faith, and dedication or our selfish thinking. There should be an increase in the compassion, sympathy, and understanding between family members. Internal problems do not arise in the family where it is practiced, and every member lives in peace and harmony.
Akhand Jyoti Magazine 2022 Jul-Aug
