The bioelectricity flowing through man and woman creates bio- magnetic fields having opposite polarity in their bodies. This oppositeness is manifested as the natural attraction between the two sexes. During youth, this bio-magnetic field is stronger because of the increased biological activity of the body. Unilaterally, these fields are inconsequential for either sex, but physical contact benefits both in the development of their physical and mental potentialities.
All over the world, single men and women face more health problems and generally have lesser longevity than married couples. The bodies of widows and widowers appear lusterless and unhealthy. They are found complaining about some ailment or other.
Let this statement of fact not startle the believers in the virtues of sex restraint. Here, it is not the intention to contradict the advantages of abstention from sex for long periods or throughout life. Neither are the above facts contradictory to the advantages of celibacy advocated by the science of body chemistry.
Abstaining from sex for long periods builds up tremendous creative energy in the body. Persons having exceptional power of will, courage, and perseverance may undertake special exercises of yoga to harness the incredible power inherent in sex for creativity and use it for achieving excellence in athletics, erudition, or spirituality. They have the option to adopt celibacy for long periods. However, for such rare exceptions, the laws of body chemistry applicable to the common man cannot be applied. For a common man, it is necessary to live a natural married life to supplement the physical and emotional needs of either sex. Ayurveda (An ancient Indian medical science based on herbal treatment) and other traditional therapies say that suppression of sexual urges by a common man for a long time makes the person prone to many diseases. It is clearly seen in the deteriorating health of widows and widowers. Experience shows that a normal happy conjugal relationship is advantageous for both sexes. There is nothing wrong with having sex. The harm is only in the abnormality of extramarital sexual relationships. One, who does not know about baking a cake, has to eat a tasteless cake. One bitter cake does not mean that all cakes. are bitter.
Sexual intercourse involves an exchange of vitality between the two bodies. In course of sex, a man absorbs the same amount of vitality as his female partner. Hence matrimonial alliances between a man and a woman of more or less the same age are commendable. With the advancement in age, the capacity of absorption of vitality increases. As a large tree draws in nutrients from around a large area beneath it on the ground and does not let the small plants grow beneath it, in course of the act of sex, the older person draws out the vitality of the younger partner. According to Ayurveda, coitus with a younger woman increases the vitality of a man. On the other hand, an older woman is benefited from having sex with a younger person. Coitus between persons of the same age protects the vitality of both.
Through experience, the man had known this fact since ancient times and has been usurping it to his advantage. The man had cleverly kept it as a guarded secret from womankind to keep it from revolting. Many societies do not approve of the marriage of a boy with an older girl, though a difference of a year or two in the age of husband and wife is immaterial from the above point of view.
Marrying a younger woman increases the chances of greater longevity for her husband, and his health, too, shows improvement, whereas, the wife loses vitality and ages prematurely. (In polygamous societies, men take advantage of this factor for their health and longevity.)
In certain primitive societies, parents give their young daughters in marriage to much older men for monetary reasons. It is a very cruel and despicable practice. Throughout her life, the hapless woman is sucked out of her vitality, bit by bit, by her parasitic husband. It is seen that young wives of old men frequently fall sick. The poor women even do not know the actual reason for their failing health. Unfortunately, many males in humankind are sacrificing natural justice at the altar of self-interest.
In course of coitus, excitement enhances the bioelectric energy level of the participants, and an inter-transmission of energy takes place between the two bodies. The most powerful and vital energy of the human body is related to reproduction. At the moment of orgasm, this internal energy is released and mutually absorbed through the private parts of the participants.
Consequently, a reciprocal transformation of personalities, qualities, traits, and temperaments (Guna-Karma-Swabhava) takes place. The bioelectric particles, mutually absorbed by man and woman, incessantly seek a reunion with their parent source. (Like a large magnet tending to attract a small magnet.) The process is like a traveler to an alien land frequently longing to return to his native place. This inner biomagnetic activity itself finds an expression as conjugal love. Sexual intercourse makes this attraction stronger. On account of the presence of each other’s bioelectrical particles in their bodies, the emotional attachment between a lover and a beloved is much stronger than that between individuals having other relationships. (Some recent studies have shown that after long periods of association, husbands and wives are shaped into similar personalities.)
This phenomenon is also illustrated in the love of parents for their offspring. Since a part of the bioelectric fields of the bodies. of parents goes into building the Ideosphere of the child, the attraction between the two produces emotions of mutual love. Mother’s contribution being more than that of the father, maternal love is very strong in all species.
Free, healthy interaction between male and female members of society gives pleasure and promotes mutual understanding. Certain primitive societies do not approve of interaction between married couples in public places. Nothing is more ridiculous than permitting a woman to talk freely with
strangers, but asking her to cover her face with a veil while speaking to her own husband. It should be understood that the practice of using a veil is harmful to the psychological development of a person. In many parts of the world, men and women traditionally work in separate groups. Notwithstanding cultural constraints, they should at least have the freedom of conversation with their family members in the confines of their homes.
For a healthy, ethical cohabitation, maximum freedom and convenience of interaction between man and woman are necessary. On special occasions, embracing in public places, too, should be permissible. However, sex should never cross ethical limits.
Source: Akhand Jyoti Magazine 2023 Jan-Feb
